Divorced single Dad, almost 50
homerstevePrayers: 3Requests: 6
November 30, 2019 at 12:16 am
Hi I’m Steven, my wife divorced me after 26 years of marriage. I got majority custody of my son, Ian. It’ll be two years since the divorce in December. I’m not doing well mentally. I’m so lonely and upset with myself. I feel my life has stopped and is basically over. I don’t feel attractive anymore and I basically just want it to be over. My son needs me though. I guess he could live with his mom but I don’t think I’d make it if I lost him. I don’t really have extended family for support. I’ve been to 7 different therapist and have been on anti depressive medication. I’m off it now by choice and don’t really see any therapist. I didn’t find them helpful. They actually triggered my depression a lot. Anyway, I just ask for prayer for my son and I. I pray my son will be okay and that I may find happiness again. I’ve lost my desire for anything really. I pray and read but feel that God may even be judging me. I know He judged his son for my sins and I know I shouldn’t listen to my feelings. I know this in my head but I’ve lost hope and my heart. I know people have been through worse, but I haven’t. I don’t see a light at the end of the tunnel. Two years since the divorce but five years since she started the ball rolling on leaving me. I don’t want to be alone but I don’t see starting over at fifty. All the years I’ve put in my marriage and some other man gets to be with my wife. It seems I can only deaden my heart to deal with the pain of the loss. I feel my prayers only reach the ceiling. It’s hard for me to make friends, I’m socially awkward. I’ve been going to the same church for over 12 years and have no friends there. Funny how you can be extremely lonely at church and no one notice. I don’t see God working in my life. I see him working in my ex who cheated on me and abandoned us. That’s not possible though, the God of the Bible doesn’t work like that, right? Like I said I think I’m going mental sometimes. It all seems so hopeless. It’s such a cold world. Thank you if you find the time to pray for my son and me. – Stevendavis3222shirley1Prayers: 959Requests: 2
November 30, 2019 at 4:25 am
Father In heaven, I pray for mercy for Steven and Ian. I pray for healing for their hearts from the pain of the divorce. I pray they will find some good group connections either in their church, or a new church or a YMCA, somewhere where they can be active and laugh again. I pray they will be able to forgive each other the pains they have received. I pray you will shield them from the snares of the devil. He is a deceiver. I pray for a strong Christian group for Ian. The world is a difficult place and dangerous. I pray the blood of Jesus over Ian and Steven, over their home. Over their thoughts. God has not given them a spirit of fear, but of power, and love and a sound mind. Help Steven walk by faith, not by sight. One day, one step. He is not able, but You are more than able. I pray if there is a retreat that would help, you will lead them to it. I pray if there are devotionals that would help, you will show them which ones. Be the strength they need. Help them take their eyes off the mom right now with her worldly happiness that won’t satisfy. Show them the true path to restoration. In Jesus namejere.lppPrayers: 196Requests: 2
November 30, 2019 at 8:16 am
Steven, the enemy seeks to kill and destroy. The attacks come in all shapes, sizes, and forms through many different channels. Let not this ship pass without re-engaging. You are called to be more than a depression upon this Earth. Lift your chin up and see! Find a men’s fellowship group. Carry on. You are meant to concur. Godspeed. Lord inject Your joy into the father and son here. Lift them up this Christmas season. Heal the broken hearts and comfort them with Your love. In Jesus name, amen.janel.holadayPrayers: 1044Requests: 106
November 30, 2019 at 9:28 am
Hi Steven! You are SO not old- and definitely not too old to make new friends and enjoy this life. If you are healthy and able to do things with your son, what a BIG blessing!! Move on from your ex wife. Be thankful for the good you two shared and begin writing your new chapter. No doom and gloom, brother. You’ve got it right- Jesus paid it all, for YOU! His sacrifice, our gain- freedom, peace, healing, righteousness….it goes on and on! You’ve also got it right about letting your feelings lead- don’t do it. You tell yourself what is right, lovely and true. Stop the negative talk, brother. Put that behind you. You sound kind, open, aware and intelligent- those are qualities of a good friend. You’ve got all you need. You lack nothing. Everyone can improve in different areas- no worries. You are blessed to be a blessing, brother. Forgive and move on. So your story didn’t go as you planned- make it what you want it to be today- leave a great legacy. Lead the life you and your son will be proud of. You can do it! Christ is with you and for you. You can’t go wrong! This is a wonderful season to reflect on Jesus- do it. Enjoy it! Find others to share it with. First and foremost with your son. Just yesterday, my 6 year old daughter said, It’s the Christmas season and everyone gets to celebrate that Jesus was born. I looked at her sweet smile and smiled back. You can do this, Steven. I pray you’ll hear the Holy Spirit speaking to you, encouraging you, leading you and cheering you on. He is doing just that, I know. I’m filled with joy this morning just reading about where you’ve been and imagining where you’re going. You’ve got places to go, people to meet, things to do and great sights to see, Steven. You will soar! It reminds me of that Dr. Seuss book, “Oh the Places You’ll Go!” Are you familiar with it? Go to the library and check it out. Great things are in store for you, brother. Starting right now. This day!
Father, I thank You for Steven and Ian. You made them. You love them. Your plans for them are good. Steven is climbing out of this rut. You are pulling him up and opening his eyes to the Light. Today is a glorious day because You are seated on Your throne, ruling and reigning and smiling on us. We are Your children. Your love for us is great, and Your patience is the same. We are forgiven and free to live for You! Put this in Steven’s heart and Ian’s, too. Free to live for You. Not slaves to sin or to our own worldly desires. We are FREE!!! WHOO HOO!!! Hallelujah!!!! I’m taking that to the bank! Ha ha!! Truly I am. I’m going to fire up a candle, make a cup of coffee and look at my empty Christmas tree just waiting to be decorated. I rejoice in You!! Immanuel, God with us. YES!! SO blessed!!! I rejoice in You, Jesus!! King of Kings, Lord of Lords, my Savior, my God, my friend. Thank You for reminding Steven to take every thought captive. He is MORE than a conqueror! He has an awesome testimony that will help so many people. He will comfort others with the comfort He has been shown. Your plans for him are good! I’m excited about them! No starting over, just pressing on! We press on- our calling is sure and secure, in You. Praise You!! Thank You!! Amen and Amen.
Steven, I’m so happy to be able to pray for you. Good things are in your life and coming your way! I’d love to hear the updates: DABTucson@gmail.com
JaneljoesanchezfomPrayers: 73Requests: 17
November 30, 2019 at 11:18 am
Father we lift up Steven in the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth all praise and glory to his name. Father you created Steven you knew him before he was born you promise you will not give him more than he is able to deal with, you go before him and are making a way.Father Steven believes help him in this difficult time speak to any unbelief in his heart. You are Faithful and True. Bring Hope to him Lord bless him with divine appointments his life allow him to discern those you place before him- you Father are making a Steven New in Jesus NamePat ShafferPrayers: 46Requests: 33
November 30, 2019 at 5:14 pm
Steven You are so dear to us and our Heavenly Father! I lift you and your son up in prayer to our Heavenly Father. He will give you everything you need! Lord bless and comfort Steven. Watch over him and give him peace In Jesus Name Amenfelixculpa723Prayers: 1987Requests: 7
December 2, 2019 at 8:22 pm
Heavenly Father, I stand before your altar of prayer to intercede for this son who is critically discouraged. I pray that you will be the supreme king and sovereign lifter of his head. I further pray for an outpouring of your spirit of forgiveness into his soul so that he can see your hand in his life and abandon all of his priorities in favor of your leading in his life. I pray for a healing of this son’s discouragement and negativity. I further pray for his ability to put his own feelings aside and focus on nurturing the son you have entrusted to him. Father, I entrust his life and his joy totally to you.homerstevePrayers: 3Requests: 6
December 4, 2019 at 7:23 pm
Thank you for your prayers. Today I had to see my ex for a dental appointment for my son. She acts like nothing happened as if we didn’t divorce. There’s no remorse over what she’s done. She acts like it was a natural thing and the way things should have happened between us. My whole life has been turned upside down. It’s been almost 5 years since her betrayal. My life hasn’t gotten better, maybe emotionally. I’m not crying every night. That’s a good thing. Trying to raise my son on my own is hard. No extended family to help. If she kept her promise to me at least I would of had her help. But she’s like a grandparent that visits her son every now and then. I feel abandoned. How did this happen? How do I trust again? -Steven firstname.lastname@example.orgPrayers: 3215Requests: 24
December 5, 2019 at 12:30 pm
Standing in agreement with these prayers for our brother, Steven. Lord, in his pain, we pray You would reach him with wisdom and encouragement. Help him choose something enjoyable to do with his son this Christmas season. Maybe a trip to the ocean, or to the mountains. Perhaps he has always wanted to see the Grand Canyon. Help him find one thing and do it. This was the first thing my mom did after she divorced my step father – she took us to the Grand Canyon. We were thrilled! We had gone by the turnoff so many times, and Dad would not take us there. It was a celebration for sure made more lovely by the overnight light snowfall. I’ll never forget that first view.
Help Steven return to that Christian counselor (https://newlife.com/counselors/) knowing that it’s normal to feel worse before feeling better. There is alot of hurt bottled up and it’s painful to start letting it out, and, it’s the beginning of healing. Lord, be very close to Steven, as he seeks to improve his life with Your guidance and healing.
A new place to find and make some Christian men friends is Celebrate Recovery (https://www.celebraterecovery.com/). It’s a good place to learn better how to live well.
Blessings Brother ~gail
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