CC1966Prayers: 2Requests: 4
July 21, 2021 at 7:09 pm
Hello DAB family,
If you could keep my husband and I in prayer…in March of 2020, we traveled from the US to New Zealand to help my father and mother in law to travel back to the States after living here for over 30 years. My father in law was living with the effects of Alzheimer’s and vascular dementia, and didn’t want us in the house because he didn’t know us-and made a point of telling us every day. For the most part, my mother in law had a sweetness to her (they are both professed Believers), but years of living with the verbal abuse from her husband had made her a bit brittle and abusive toward us as well (hurt people tend to hurt other people). Then the lockdown hit, leaving us stranded with no means of returning home. Then Dad got sick and required nursing home care. Mom’s health began to deteriorate, with several surgeries needed. She became more and more verbally abusive toward my husband and me…only to turn around and berate us for showing visible signs of being hurt by her words and actions-(‘i was kidding, you need to forgive me and get over it’).
As time passed, her words just got worse-she made fun of my ethnicity (I’m African American, she is Caucasian), my hair, and especially my weight, and physical appearance. It was as if she just couldn’t help herself. When we were around her NZ friends, she loved showing off, saying whatever came into her mind that she thought might be funny (‘you’d better not fall down, someone might mistake it for an earthquake’-she actually said that, no reason, no apology when she saw how it hurt me). I love my mother in law-all I truly wanted to do was serve her in this crucial time of her life, but being stuck here with the both of them was heartbreaking and emotionally debilitating. While we were relatively safe from COVID and were able to get vaccinated, this whole trip came at such a painful cost.
My father in law went home to be with the Lord in April. We got Mom on a plane back to the States in June. Now David and I are here, shouldered with the burden of packing up and making repairs on this house, putting it on the market to sell. At one point, my in-laws were persons of tremendous wealth; but time, bills, and dozens of family members asking for funds over the years have left mom with little to no resources…and since David and I were here in a foreign country, we were told that getting work visas was next to impossible given the economic situation-Kiwis first, understandably. We are here on visitors’ visas.
We are down to our last two months of savings, as we have begun spending our own money/credit to do what needs to be done before we leave. Back in the States, all of our belongings are in storage on a friend’s property-we can stay there temporarily, but I’m nervous that we won’t be able to find a place to live, as not being able to work has caused our bills back home to fall behind; our credit scores have taken a hit…understandably, most landlords are asking for above average ratings to even be considered.
I apologize for the lengthy message…my heart is so heavy right now. I don’t want to keep crying on my husband’s shoulder, as he’s got enough on his plate to deal with. Please pray that our home sells here in New Zealand…and sells quickly. There are some really good friends of my in laws who have been of some assistance here in NZ, but with the exception of one of my mother in law’s sisters, no one from his family has even called or emailed to ask us how we’re doing or if we need any help with anything.
There is more to say, but I know I’ve already taken up a good deal of your time. I’ve tried to be faithful, I’m trying to trust the Lord, but it seems that every day, there is a new stress, and new road block, a new bill that is coming due. I miss my own family-I haven’t seen them since February of 2020-and my husband and I feel so kicked to the curb and forgotten by everyone we love. Please forgive me if you are in similar struggles. I know this past year has been incredibly hard for many, and I never want to come across as whining. God is truly a good and merciful God…but there are just days like today where my heart gets so heavy, and I don’t know where to go or what to do…Forgive me, Father. I’m just so scared.sunbeem4uPrayers: 3Requests: 1
July 21, 2021 at 7:32 pm
I am praying for your heart! I can’t imagine how you are feeling but I wanted to let you know I have said a prayer for peace and comfort for you and for things to get settled so you and your husband can be happy again! The stress our aged parents put on us is very difficult but know you and your husband are sweet, kind, loving and selfless servants! I will continue to keep you in my prayers!
Dear Jesus, please wrap your loving arms around my sweet sister and her husband! There has been so much pain caused by what is going on along w/ ugly things said. Please give both of these sweet servants some peace and let them feel your love! Also, remind her and her husband that the words and actions coming from their parents is the disease not the people that we so kind and loving before they were sick!
In Jesus name I pray, Amen!joymumleyPrayers: 2Requests: 1
July 21, 2021 at 8:27 pm
I’m praying that this time in your life God uses to strengthen your marriage that you both lean on each other and not turn on each other , I remind you that God is a faithful God and if you remain faithful he will bless you, I pray that you are able to sell your home and find work that is fulfilling and he give you some relief … know you are loved you matter and God has not forgotten you 💕 you are beautiful as God made you and no matter what she may say about you know that she not does anyone else define you …. “ I knew you before I formed you in your mother’s womb “ and please don’t let others opinions enter God already defined you and he says to you …
You are God’s masterpiece -Ephesians 2:10
She is worth far more than rubies – proverbs 31:10
God will bring you threw the fire psalms 66:12
Much love my sister in Christ !!!michellymabizelaPrayers: 64Requests: 14
July 22, 2021 at 1:41 am
praying for you sweetheart hang in there YAH is in control and may YAH Bless your good heart he sees everything love you
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