janel.holadayParticipantReplies: 32Topics: 5
January 11, 2017 at 12:03 am
Praising God for being the answer to my feelings of stress and for giving me the wisdom to ask for prayer. Please pray that I will let God run my days. I feel completely stressed from lack of sleep with a little one not sleeping well, my husband snoring which puts me in the guest room, starting a new online school with my elementary school aged son/homeschooling, the house needing to be cleaned and reorganized, etc. Ha! I could go on, but I won’t. Help!! Standing in the need of prayer. I know I need to take it easy on myself and those in my family. Things don’t always go smoothly and that’s ok. God wants me to let Him be in charge and take the pressure off myself and my family. He wants me to trust Him with each day and just enjoy Him and all the blessings He’s given me. Unfortunately, I struggle with this sometimes and feel completely overwhelmed. Please pray. I will get on the prayer wall and pray for others…always gives me joy and peace when I do. Thank You, Jesus! You are SO good!! My life is in Your Hands, help me to honor You with it and not stress…easier said than done at times, but You know my heart. My heart turns to You and yields to You. Ahhhh!!! Have Your way. You are God. I’m Your child. Let me rest in You and start making dinner. May this request somehow be a blessing to someone. Amen.sheila.tolsonParticipantReplies: 1128Topics: 18
January 11, 2017 at 1:46 am
You know my sister Janel I have not met you but I feel you are so hilarious!! So I speak joy unspeakable to you in the midst of what you are doing: Please do the following
1. Start the day by putting on the full armor of God knowing that you are not alone in this battle.
2. Speak with the Holy spirit like you would speak to your best of friends at all times- ask him Holy spirit give me wisdom on this or that . I used to misplace stuff all the time BUT thank God he asked me to tap the blessing of the Holy spirit and anytime i misplace anything or look for something i ask Holy spirit where is this / would you have me do etc and .. It works for me!!
3.Write down the tasks that you need to accomplish in a specific date knowing that you are NOT Mrs. Perfect – please don’t push yourself too hard as you can only do so much; whatever house tasks are not completed in 1 day you can complete the following day until you finally get the home the way you want it.
4, While working in the house put a timer on the micro wave for specific tasks that way you can work on schedule.
5.Regarding the snoring , how you tried removing the pillow while your husband is sleeping , sometimes that helps ; but if this has been a chronic problem he may need to see an ENT doctor.
6. For little baby not sleeping well, have you identified the cause- is baby eating well , is this a constant problem and if so I ask that Lord Jesus will touch baby supernaturally and give baby sleep . I pray for the spirit of calmness to sweep over your home.
7. Finally I ask that the Lord will overwhelm you with HIS peace, be still and know that He is GOD. He sees all your frustration and needs you to STOP worrying. start telling yourself no matter how hard it is – I will NOT worry . I will not let this situation put me down. Speak it out and it will become a reality . You have a lot of power as a believer so I want you to use it.
8. Finally when the day is done put on the full armor before you go to sleep.
May the peace of God sweep over your home. In Jesus name I pray.
Amenjanel.holadayParticipantReplies: 32Topics: 5
January 11, 2017 at 6:24 am
Hi Sheila! You ROCK!! You know it’s funny, but as I felt completely stressed and knew to turn to prayer, I thought of you. I thought to myself, Sheila would pray for me. Now isn’t that AWESOME?!
I love it!! You go girl!! Thank you SO SO SO SO SO much for praying for me and encouraging me with such practical and thoughtful words. Wow!! That was so awesome to read! You are right on- thankfully I know these things but as you might know, sometimes I just need to hear it again and from someone who cares. I know you care or wouldn’t be praying and responding to so many requests. You inspire me to keep praying and keep writing. I appreciate the reminder about putting on the Armor of God. Could you guess, I forgot all about it when starting my day? Go figure. I know how powerful it is. I have to say I never think of putting it on when I go to sleep at night, but from now on I will. I’ve been sleeping horribly for many months now…toss and turn, wide awake…not really worrying about anything but just unable to sleep. Oh and so you know, my stress isn’t worry, it’s just a feeling of intense pressure. Take it to the Lord in prayer, I know and I do. I speak it out. I’m in constant communication with the Holy Spirit…He is my best friend and He hears it all. He is my comforter, helper and everything! Praise the Lord for that!! So how do I get off track? It happens. I read this thing a friend posted for Moms…fits me all too well. Ugh! But you know what? It encourages me to press on and fight the good fight. I know victory is in the power of God, His Word and in Jesus! God has put spiritual warfare on my heart for my church and for believers in general the past few months. He even gave me a vision of an army that He wants to raise up and train. I see it. I’m praying about it and will continue to be open to what God wants to do. Anyway…it’s late. I made it through the day and tucked both my children in bed after praying with them. May joy, laughter and peace fill my home, like you prayed. I don’t feel too hilarious lately, but that’s about to change. I have the JOY of the Lord and I’m HIS masterpiece. I want to SHINE for Him and serve Him well in any and every way He chooses. I will start in my home. Help me Jesus! Let me forget about feelings and stand on Your Word and what is true! Bless my sister, Sheila! Fill her with Your Holy Spirit as she continues to pour into the hearts and lives of many through prayer. Be glorified in our lives, Jesus. Do it for Your glory, our good and the good of many. Whoo hoo!! Good stuff right there!! Yes and Amen!! Thank you again, Sheila. What a blessing! I’m going to hop on the wall and do some prayer for others before I go to sleep- won’t forget my armor!!! Here’s that thing I read (I’m going to post it and pray it helps another Mom today. : My Dear Wormwood,
I was thrilled to hear you have been making progress with the mother. You have a good lead, from what I hear. She’s feels over-worked, unappreciated, and discouraged? I’m so glad to hear it. If you tread carefully, this can be a great opportunity. With the kids waking her up every hour last night, we already have an advantage. A tired Mom makes for a more emotional Mom, and an emotional Mom is a vulnerable one.
I do have a few tips. First, aim your best efforts at her marriage.
As you know, we cannot do much with a unified marriage. Luckily for us, a cranky and exhausted wife can do wonders to change that. We must convince her that her husband is no longer the friend and ally she first married. Instead, we must reveal every sin and selfish habit, especially drawing attention to his thoughtless actions (mal-intended or not) against her.
Sometimes it’s the less obvious things, things the husband doesn’t even realize, that we can use to offend her the most. When he comes home from work and dumps his things on the counter nearest the door (instead of hanging his coat or putting away his keys), let her think of it as a direct assault on her work as a homekeeper. When he treks mud in with his shoes, let her think it is because he does not love her. Such extremes of thought may seem ridiculous to you or I, but to the exhausted mortal woman, it can seem possible. Your goal is to make her think the husband does not notice, or even better, that he does not care about her efforts at home.
Secondly, do what you can to keep her focused on her troubles and pains. Remind her how much her back aches, how draining the children were all day, and how many undone tasks still beckon her. Do not let her wonder what difficulties her husband faced that day or whether his back might also be aching. Valuing others above oneself is one of those silly, though strangely effective, tactics of the Enemy. If she stops to make him a cup of coffee, the next thing you know she’ll be rubbing his shoulders and flirting with him on the couch. It can progress out of your control if you’re not careful.
Along those lines, be sure the Mother starts to value productivity above everything else. Have her wake up early and work non-stop until bedtime. If the husband relaxes in the evening with an hour of computer gaming, be sure the wife notices the pile of unfolded laundry or unswept floors. Do not let her grab a book and relax alongside her husband. Diligence, often one of the Enemy’s virtues, when overdone can be used to our advantage as well. Convince her that as long as there is a shred of work to be done (and there always is), no one should be resting. Then, as she folds and sweeps and he sits, you can introduce the sweet bitterness of resentment.
A word of caution here. Remember, the love of a husband can be dangerous to our cause. If he senses her unhappiness, he may begin to help or (even worse) show her affection. This is where previously planted seeds of resentment can be guided into full bloom. Make her think that his displays of affection are because he “only wants one thing”. Do not let her view his help with the dishes (or kisses or cuddling) as having pure motives. If he shows his desire for her, convince her that she is being used, not loved. As we both know, the ultimate Act of Marriage can bond them together in a way that can undo much hard work on our part. Because of this, do not allow her to prioritize that Act on her mental to-do-list. It is in our best interest to keep the wife busy, busy, busy and be sure she’s far too exhausted to consider it by the end of the evening.
Now, onto the children. Lovely little opportunities for us, the children, especially the little ones. We all know that children are a favorite tool of the Enemy. He calls them Blessings and Gifts and calls parents to lay down their lives for them, just as his Son did. Insane, I know. We must convince her that the obnoxious little people she has charge of are not really worth her sacrifice. When the Mother first dreamed of having children, she probably imagined large, innocent eyes and chubby, happy grins taking up the majority of her days. Do your best to shatter those expectations.
Instead, draw attention to how much they take from her. Let them take and take and take… And need and need and need, until the Mother feels totally spent. Let them start crying at the same time for the most irrational of reasons. Let the noise bother her. Let their bad behavior surprise her. Do your best to make the day-to-day monotony of diaper changes, meals, and baths seem simultaneously overwhelming and beneath her. Let her think of all the better, more important things she could be doing with her life, if only she didn’t have the children.
Don’t let her think about the future responsible, faithful adults she is raising. Society changers, friends, workers, husbands or wives… Don’t let her think of them as life-long companions who will love her, converse with her, and care for her in her old age. Oh, and definitely don’t let her think about the grandchildren she might be able to see in their little grubby faces if she looked hard enough now. No, no, no… Thinking ahead to when her work bears fruit, as the Enemy calls it, is always a bad idea. Keep words like ‘heritage’ or ‘legacy’ far away from the runny noses and jelly stains of the day to day.
If there is any last piece of advice I have for you, Wormwood, it is to keep the Mother looking to her husband or family for her fulfillment and comfort. We know that the Enemy is always watching and willing to take the burdens of his children, but if we divert the Mother’s attention well enough, this fact can be forgotten. Make her look to her husband for worth and affirmation. Then, when he lets her down (as he is sure to do), she will be ours to torment. Yes, the worst thing that could happen would be for her to turn to Him with her needs and inadequacies. Once she realizes that the Enemy offers a peace that transcends her situation, our work could be utterly compromised.
Your Malevolent Uncle,
Screwtapesheila.tolsonParticipantReplies: 1128Topics: 18
January 11, 2017 at 1:28 pm
Praise God! This is really Good Stuff!! Thank you so much for sharing. We now know the tactics of the enemy , now we are even more prepared to pull down his strong holds in Jesus name!!
God Bless you my sister
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