Late diagnosis of Aspergers?
lynnmary.waughPrayers: 0Requests: 1
September 11, 2019 at 7:50 am
I’ve been struggling in marriage for years with things that don’t make sense to me. We’ve been separated several times and I cannot recall just how many resources, Counseling sessions, marital ministries, etc I’ve exposed our marriage to with no lasting results on his end. Recently, after asking for another separation & contemplating divorce, this counselor suggested to my husband and I that my husband be tested for Aspergers. He’s 42. We’ve been married for 16 years. As this opinion & suggestion of our counselor does not affect my husband, I’ve been greatly affected. I’m having a difficult time with considering the possibility of that diagnosis & all the complications that come with that, while still burdened with current marital hardship. I don’t know a thing about Aspergers, and the hours of research has led me to more anxiety but I feel as if I must know!! I can identify some traits (lack of introspection, intimacy, cognitive & affective empathy, processing emotions, which results in lack of communication & bonding with others) but he doesn’t posses any of the quirky traits that would lead one to consider a disability in him. I have since quit researching while I wait for him to get tested. I am asking for prayers for wisdom, rest, strength… Thank you!saraisa613Prayers: 6Requests: 1
September 11, 2019 at 10:07 am
Lord, please be with this dear, tired sister. She has been through so much and has sought so much for help and resources and she is worn out. Bring her soul to a place of rest and trust in you. You know what is going on from beginning to end and all wisdom is found in you. Help her find her strength and peace in you. Help her find her answers in you. Answer the deep need of her soul with your complete love so she can rest. In Jesus name, Amen.gsimoninPrayers: 2260Requests: 17
September 11, 2019 at 10:15 am
We come to Your throne today, Lord, to pray on behalf of our sister, lynnmary.waugh, who You know is struggling and has been struggling for many years in her marriage, with her husband, and now with a potential new mindset. We bring her before You, we lay her in Your loving hands. We ask for Your love and graciousness to overwhelm her with comfort as she trusts in You. Lord, help her not fear this potential diagnosis for it may explain and help her understand many of the struggles she and her husband have had. Such a diagnosis does NOT mean that he will never work again, NOR that he cannot learn to have a closer connection with her. There are strategies which can address the issues. Meanwhile, Father, we pray for rest and strength for lynnmary.waugh. And wisely she has asked for wisdom. This is great! Because we know from Your Word that You tell us if we lack wisdom, all we have to do is come to You and ask for some. We are asking! Give her wisdom Father, to see, understand and be able to rest in You. This is not a hopeless situation.
Sister – I can say from my many years of being a follower of Christ that He is trustworthy, faithful and you can rely on Him.
Also, we are in a relationship with an adult who likely has some degree of Asperger’s, likely undiagnosed. What we notice is that they lack many social skills like saying hello when they first see someone. They also have little understanding of which topics are or are not appropriate to discuss. After some research to understand better, we now always say hello when we see them again, and, don’t take offense when they don’t reply. However, they are replying more often now than previously. They can learn! And, as for the inappropriate topics — I’ve just had to be really clear about that by saying, “This is not an appropriate topic to discuss with me. You can discuss this with…and I give the name of a couple of more appropriate people.” I no longer get angry, or on edge about it and I don’t politely sit and listen to a topic that is not intended for me. They have reduced the number of times this happens, and I am encouraged that they can learn. I’ve had to verbally set clear boundaries and I’m learning to do so kindly and firmly. Blessings Sister, ~gailfelixculpa723Prayers: 1030Requests: 5
September 12, 2019 at 1:34 pm
Heavenly Father, I add my voice to the intercessory prayers on behalf of this family. I ask that you bathe this couple with your love, and show them your path to healing their relationship. Father, I pray for the gift of hope for this husband and wife, so that they can have this as a foundation for repairing their marriage. As your timing guides, I pray that both of these people can eventually come to a place of repentance and forgiveness. Father, we thank you that your relationship with us is the blueprint for all of our earthly relationships.
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