Lonely and searching for a woman who puts God first

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  • My girlfriend of only 8 months broke up with me and as I step back and look at all five of the relationships I have been involved with I am realizing that the reason they haven’t worked out is because none of them put God first. I am searching and am continually praying that if it’s God’s will that he will put me in a path that leads me to a woman that I’m searching for. She is beautiful, caring, loving, nurturing, sensual, wants us to share life together, wants me to be part of her family and wants to do things together. In other words, a normal, meaningful, fulfilling, loving relationship. I know all things are possible with God and when two or more people come together to pray things happen. So that is my goal here. Thank you in advance.


    Dear Brother,

    Your search for a woman who puts God first is the right path to take. I looked at what you asked for and have tried to line it with God’s word. “She is beautiful, caring, loving, nurturing, sensual”
    Everything seems good EXCEPT sensual. I am not sure if you meant to say sensual but here is what the bible says regarding sensuality.

    Sensuality is often listed as one characteristic of those who “will not inherit the kingdom of God” (Galatians 5:19–21). When the Bible speaks of sensuality, it implies a loss of control over one’s passions and evil desires. Depraved sexuality is usually a part of it, as well. Romans 1:21–32 gives a detailed digression of those enslaved by sensuality, which leads to sexual perversions and eventually a reprobate mind. Sensuality is in direct opposition to God’s desire for us to live “by the Spirit” (Galatians 5:19, 25). Galatians 5:16 says, “Walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh.” If we are walking by the Spirit, we will not indulge in sensuality.

    Sensuality has no place in the life of a child of God (1 Peter 4:3). Romans 8:4 says that Christians “do not walk according to flesh but according to Spirit.” 1 John 2:15–16 warns us against loving “the things of this world,” which include the “lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life.” Those things summarize the heart of sensuality.

    I pray that you may draw closer to God in your walk according to Mathew 6:33 and I know that God stays true to His word.

    God bless.

    Praying with you brother. Your doing it right …. Continue to keep God first and foremost. He has an amazing plan for you, for all of us.

    Hey Dirk, I felt like I was reading my own post. I am in the EXACT same situation. As a matter of fact my last relationship was 8 months as well. AND, my previous relationships failed for the EXACT same reason. I will not get in another relationship with a woman who does not put God first. It is doomed to failure.

    I have put my profile on a couple dating sites and I must say the shallowness of the available women out there isn’t all that encouraging. Most likely I will not meet the woman I am looking for on those sites, but with God, all things are possible, so we’ll see.

    Just put your focus and time on God and stop worrying about a woman coming into your life. I can totally understand how you feel because I am alone as well, but when the time is right, you will meet the woman He has in mind for you. In the meantime, focus on becoming the person you’re looking for … is looking for … 🙂

    God bless you Dirk. Praying that God already has things in motion for you to cross paths with that woman who will adore you as you will adore her. 🙂

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