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June 9, 2018 at 2:25 pm
My wife threatened divorce again today. This is a yearly occurrence. We have a four-year-old daughter and I am devastated by the state of our marriage. We have been married for five years, have gone to counseling off and on, and I am becoming convinced that unless my wife seeks individual help not much will change. Three months ago my mom and her got into a fight at Disney World. My wife then got the cops involved when we landed at the airport after the trip after she demanded $1,000 for her to stay away from me for the remainder of the trip. What is disturbing is she leads youth ministry at church. She goes to church and acts like all is well; however, I feel completely unloved and confused as to why she mistreats me. I have also come to realize that majority of the articles published are written towards the women being the victims and the husbands wanting divorce or being ungodly. Not all literature, but he vast majority. I have been seeing an individual counselor weekly in order to effectively cope with responding in a healthy way to daily negative behaviors. I am praying that my wife will see the chaplain personally on a weekly basis too. In our five years of marriage, she has never apologized for anything on her own accord without my request. I pray for redemption for my wife. I think she is living a lie thinking she is a Christian, but in reality there is hypocrisy going on. There is a lot of evil spirited behavior and I have struggled determining what God wants me to do. My thought process now is to get our chaplain involved. If that does not work, I plan to get those at the church who she connects with involved in the issue. If that fails, then I may have to get separated. Today, her threat of divorce was merely an attempt to manipulate my grievances with her in order for me to stop expressing how I had a problem with how she treated me. Sometimes I think possibly God had a better plan for me in terms of marriage and that I simply did not choose with wisdom. We fornicated before marriage, which prompted me to rush the engagement and marriage. I regret this and believe that if I would have been obedient, then maybe I would have not gotten in this mess. I cannot change the past. I love my wife and am blessed with a beautiful daughter. Nonetheless, I pray for wisdom on how to godly respond to my wife’s attacks that seem to occur often. I pray that I do whatever God leads me to do according to His will. May I rely on Him and be at peace with knowing that He has a purpose and plan for all events. I pray that my wife will get personal help and come to the realization that her drastic and hardened heart behavior such as spending thousands in anger, threatening divorce, calling the police on me, being disrespectful to me and my parents, and never really thinking she is at fault is a problem. Lord work in our marriage. Thank you Brian and DAB community for your prayers and ministry.
June 9, 2018 at 5:16 pmHello: I am so sorry to hear about what you’re going through. I don’t know the whole situation and what your wife’s bad behavior and mistreatment stems from, but I would say she/the two of you need to get to the root of it. I’m happy that you posted this request so I can pray for you both.
Father, You know this man, his wife and his daughter. You created them all. You love them. You know the root of this woman’s anger, bitterness, etc. I ask You to help her deal with it and get rid of it. That’s no way to live. If she feels stuck, I pray You would show her the way out- not through divorce but through love, patience, forgiveness, honesty and vulnerability. I lift this man up to You. Encourage him and teach him how to be the strong, godly leader that his wife and daughter need. Teach him and help him follow You. I ask You to fill his entire family with Your Holy Spirit. Bring healing and restoration. Fill their home with peace and love. Show them what needs to be removed, changed, etc. You know. I also ask that You remove thoughts of making a mistake concerning his marriage. You can make them a healthy, happy family because You are ALL powerful and You love families and marriage. I’m sorry to hear she is teaching at church and acting like everything is ok. I ask You to lead her to be open and honest with herself and her husband. Encourage her to be healthy and whole and to believe that she can have a wonderful marriage and be a good example for her daughter. Direct this man’s steps. I don’t know about speaking to his chaplain and involving him, but You know. Maybe you can have this man read the Word with her, pray with her and disciple her. That comes to my mind. Let this man know that I’ll be praying for him and his family. I speak blessing, healing and renewal over this marriage. May it become one that bring You glory and shines brightly for You. Let all these years of tests give them an incredible testimony that will help others and their marriages. I thank You Father for answering my prayers. I pray all this in Jesus’ Name. Amen.
Again, I’m sorry, but I’m encouraged so be encouraged, brother. God will not leave you where you are. His is good. He is faithful. Seek Him. He is your best Counselor. He is Your Healer. He will lift your head and strengthen you for battle. Remember, we battle not against flesh and bones, but against spiritual powers in the heavenly realms. Put your armor on and use it! Take your stand against the enemy’s schemes. Don’t fall for them. I believe you will, so I’m proud of you! You can do this! You will be so happy and proud of yourself. You are MORE than a conqueror! Believe it! God makes all things new!! Believe it! Bless your wife. Disciple her. That is on my heart. Blessings to you and your family. Love your wife. Love your daughter. Keep giving thanks for them and thanking God for making your family more and more beautiful. With God ALL things are possible!! YES!
Shalom
June 9, 2018 at 11:18 pmLord I pray for this Man and his family, that you will continue to help him deal with this ongoing storm that hasn’t seem to end. I ask that you shine your amazing grace on his wife and that she come to you when she is upset or wanting a divorce. I ask that you continue to spread your love in their life so they can learn to love each other as you love them. God please help this family and shine your light at their feet, show them an enjoyable,loving, and respectful path in life may it be together or in separation. Thank you God for the kindness and love that you are and In your sons holy name I pray, amen! I rooting for you sir! I’m so happy that your mind and heart is set on fighting this difficult battle your family is going through bc of the love for them that in in you. Good luck and I hope all is well soon!
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