Prayers for me and this broken marriage
uriah.k.leePrayers: 42Requests: 8
April 14, 2017 at 4:59 pm
Man don’t know where to start. Well me and my wife were fighting for the past 6 months. Marriage was going down hill. Then last month we talked and was gonna work on our marriage. I was happy had a praise report. Well that went downhill. She went to Phoenix with her friend last weekend to look for apartments for her friend. I was like ok that’s all their gonna do I trusted her. I texted she she was down there hardly any response. they came back Sunday night. I was happy thought everything went good. Well Wednesday morning some dude messages me on FB saying. I need to treat her right. He thought this past weekend would change her mind. I was in shock. I confronted her about it she admitted they met up. I ask if they did anything thing she said no. But admitted they had sex in the past one time. She’s still at home now saying she will stop talking to him. Oh he lives around where we live here. I don’t know what do to. She used to leave every Friday Saturday night saying she gonna hang with her friend dionna or sheen. Who knows she could’ve been with this dude name mike. I get angry and my heart is broke right now I never cheated on her. Need advice and prayers.soundyaaPrayers: 3085Requests: 12
April 14, 2017 at 6:20 pm
For you now: Ephesians 4:25-27
In your anger do not sin. Do not let the Devil get a foothold he will stir emotions up, he looks to destroy and devour your relationships. I pray you follow Jesus at this time and seek his presence ask him to help you, give him your anger he will take it, he loves you so much he doesn’t want you to be destroyed by this.
I am on my knees for you brother know Gods spirit is coming to you. More will follow I need to pray on it.
In Jesus name. Your brother Andy in Christ.soundyaaPrayers: 3085Requests: 12
April 14, 2017 at 6:31 pm
I believe you may need to come to accept what has happened in the past and look towards forgiveness. That it was in the past, we all fall short, sin is sin, there is no small or big, there is just separation from God. Jesus blood covered her sin. IT is only with Jesus that she and you can move through it, I solely believe there is no other way. But know God has a plan in this, he doesn’t want you to be separated, he is watching, he is close. Give your hurt, pain and loss to your Heavenly Father, he is the only one who understands what this has done to you. Dont worry or be afraid just keep close to Jesus in these coming days. I pray you hear this as I believe this is what God is saying to me. Seek a pastor locally to you if he says something similar then you will know that is Gods will in this.uriah.k.leePrayers: 42Requests: 8
April 14, 2017 at 6:46 pm
Thanks we do go to church regularly and I listen to the daily audio bible every since beginning of the year. I have my trust in God. I don’t know why she’s doing this and still goes to church and lies about everything. I love her very much. i have been treating her good loving her then this happens. I’m staying strong for our 3 kids.SheilaTPrayers: 2916Requests: 24
April 14, 2017 at 8:59 pm
My brother my heart cries out with yours . I believe you really love your wife and that’s the reason that this hurts you so much .
We have an enemy and he is a liar ! He doesn’t mind anyone going to church so let it not surprise you why your wife has done what she has done yet goes to church . The enemy has blinded her and we have to pray and cry out to God so that the lord can remove the veil from her eyes .
She needs to be delivered from the spirit of adultery . This is a spiritual warfare and we all face different warfares .
The God we serve is greater than any stronghold of Satan .
Stay strong my brother I will be praying for you and waiting to hear a report . Do not be discouraged my brother, this too shall pass .
May the Holy Spirit convict your wife and lead her to true repentance.
Peace be upon you my brother and know that my heart is heavy so I cannot write much .
I will keep praying for you .soundyaaPrayers: 3085Requests: 12
April 14, 2017 at 10:26 pm
Amen Sister Shelia. This is spiritual warefare.
God will be your strength through his. Know that I will pray regularly now going forward. Know God stands with you and will help you. I will pray for your wife and children also. God bless brother. Amen.jtylerk9Prayers: 1512Requests: 7
April 14, 2017 at 11:51 pm
Brother. The flesh side of me wants to give advice which contradicts the spiritual side of me. Praying for the wisdom and clarity that you so deserve. Praying even more for your wife as she needs to lean more into God and ask for understanding on what He tells us about marriage in the scriptures.uriah.k.leePrayers: 42Requests: 8
April 15, 2017 at 4:02 pm
Thanks for the scriptures and prayers. She is here and she sad for being here with the family. I don’t want here to feel this way. I don’t want her to take pills just to be here or when we go out I don’t want her to drink just to hang out with me. This is hard for me I’ve been praying so much. I ask if she wants to split up she don’t answer. She said she will suffer and be sad just to be here with the kids cause she’s not taking them if she goes back to that guy. He is a biker drug dealer gang guy. I’m really sad and don’t know what to do but pray. I’m the one kissing her butt she not doing anything to make me feel she wants me.soundyaaPrayers: 3085Requests: 12
April 15, 2017 at 8:06 pm
I don’t think that you are kissing her butt, think that your are honouring your Heavenly Father. There is no doubt what you are dealing with that some cannot accept, but God offers possibility, he is a God of the impossible.
Most importantly always think about the future of your children, the way you are and how you lead your family will affect them, your feelings, your words and actions will influence your previous family. You are the head of the family.
I think that it is important that your wife sees she has choice and doesn’t think you are saying just go. Remember the power and influence of words James 3:5 for you today.
The road that lies ahead will be hard and to endure it you and she will have to role with the difficult of moments of this hardship. It is a part of adaption and time is needed. I have seen the result of this sort of thing myself, I have seen also what guilt can do to people, remember it is within your power to release the guilt she feels in this. She may need this from you as well as Jesus. I pray that you are able to prayerfully consider this.
Please know I don’t approve of what has happened in one bit, I HATE sin, but I can never judge anyone, because i myself am a failure. I am praying that she would be convicted to cut all and every tie associated with this other person and understand the importance of Matthew 5:29.
I pray for your beautiful children, I pray that they can help you experiences positive moments as a family and that you understand what they may be going through. Brother your situation is distressing, I feel the hurt in it, its so sad. But dont give up just yet. Jesus didnt give up on us. Honour him a bit more, if your wife chooses to go I pray she can never say it was because you told her to.
Praying each day ahead now. God bless you at this most difficult and challenging time. Amen.SheilaTPrayers: 2916Requests: 24
April 15, 2017 at 8:43 pm
Amen ! I stand in agreement with my brother Andy . I have thought a lot about this and am giving it all to God. It’s a situation that only God can redeem. May God protect you and your family . I will say more when led to do so , for now just remember that you are deeply in my thoughts and prayersuriah.k.leePrayers: 42Requests: 8
April 15, 2017 at 10:01 pm
Thank you for the words. Our kids don’t know anything about what is going on. We keep it from them. But I’m pretty sure they know one time my 6 yr old ask if I loved mommy. I said of I do love mommy. then one time we were fighting and they didn’t know. she told me everything will be ok daddy. But all we can do is pray that’s all everybody says. Just pray I’ll continue to do that thanksSheilaTPrayers: 2916Requests: 24
April 15, 2017 at 10:39 pm
May God strengthen you my brother .pray like this for today :
Lord Jesus thank you for the grace that you are giving me as I walk through this wilderness.I feel helpless but know that I can get my help and strength from you . Please Lord carry this burden as it’s too heavy for me .
I forgive my wife as you have asked us to always forgive . Lord it is so hard to forgive so I need your grace to do so and by faith I am doing it because your spirit is enabling me.
Please forgive me too as I fall short many times.
Now by the power of your Holy Spirit I bind every wicked force operating in my wife’s life ! I ask you Lord Jesus to mute,deafen and blind these wicked vile spirits in your mighty name!
Lord Jesus , I nolonger want the enemy to have a say over my marriage! Let whatever happens in my marriage be as a result of your say and NOT that of Satan!
Lord Jesus I take my hands off this marriage issue and give it all to you because I am mere breathe and I realize that this is beyond me.
Lord Jesus I give you COMPLETE authority to work on my marriage.
Lord Jesus order my footsteps and every word that I utter from this point on.
My life is in your hands Lord so do as you will .
Lord I have no control over my wife as she has a free will so please be merciful upon us both and have your way.
I am very weary of this situation so please have your way and help me.
AmensoundyaaPrayers: 3085Requests: 12
April 16, 2017 at 4:34 am
Amen Sister Shelia. Praying these words in agreement.
I pray that you both would have the daily strength needed, I pray that you both can begin a healing journey from today. I pray the power of Gods light would be within your house so it would be a place where you are free from evil. In Jesus name. Amen.Cat from 'the Hat'Prayers: 5Requests: 0
April 16, 2017 at 1:12 pm
Uriah, my name is Stacey James and, like your wife, am a person with an addictive personality. I am hesitant to say much as I am not a professional but can only speak from experience.
You are pleading with God and that is foremost and good but he has provided professional psychologists and psychiatrists for our resources. Seek one, prayerfully, for yourself first. Before my ex-wife kicked me out I pleaded with her to be open to us getting professional help but, even though she verbally acknowledged our need, in the end we did not and eventually split up. This was crushing to me but, in hindsight, better for us and especially our daughter as I kept drowning myself in alcohol out of despair. Be vigilant, then, to guard your emotions lest you fall down in self pity.
It wasn’t until, through the prayers of a friend, that I owned up to my own need to stand up and put aside the escape mechanism keeping me from healing. My sense is that your wife will need to do the same or she will never heal.
In that respect, then, there is nothing you can do and it may require separation for such to transpire. Again, I urge you to seek professional help.
And remember what Brian taught back in January sometime, that forgiveness is not forgetting but reLEASing someone to God.
I am praying for you and your family and hope you ask the Lord for wisdom regarding the advice you receive from any of us.uriah.k.leePrayers: 42Requests: 8
April 17, 2017 at 2:52 am
Ok I’ll look into one but I don’t have money for one. Thanks shelia for the prayers and words. I will pray that prayer. All we can do is pray for us and her. I hope everyone will pray for me and my wife. Thank yousoundyaaPrayers: 3085Requests: 12
April 17, 2017 at 6:40 am
Have been and will continue. God bless.ojajanelPrayers: 50Requests: 3
April 17, 2017 at 3:50 pm
So sorry to hear what’s happened/happening with your marriage. I am praying for you and your family. Be encouraged- God loves you and wants you to draw close to him. He is your shelter, your refuge, your strong tower and a very present help in times of trouble. I commend you for posting your prayer request with such openness. My marriage is a wreck. I am miserable. And I’ve been fighting for it for a long time now. At times I get discouraged and very angry, but when I put my eyes on Jesus He tells me He will lead me and I am doing right to honor my marriage vows. I question whether it’s worth it much of the time, yet I press on and speak against evil thoughts. Your situation is very different from mine. I’m sorry for your suffering and pain. It totally sucks. I’ve read the other posts and agree that forgiveness is always what we need to do, otherwise we are the ones who suffer. As far as seeking professional help- I hear you when you don’t have the money for it. It can be expensive. God will give you the help you need and can provide good Christian counsel through believers, Pastors, etc. But first and foremost, I encourage you to stay in his Word. There are also so many good resources available online. Father, direct this man to good resources. Give him wisdom. Give him courage. Give him maturity to rise above the circumstances and lead his family as you want him to. Things can seem so messed up and we can feel overwhelmed, but praise You for instructing us to cast our cares on you because you care for us. Yes!! That is what I cling to. You will never leave us or forsake us. You lead us through this journey of life…we just have to keep our eyes on you, listen to you, obey you and trust you. May this brother hear your words of life and carry on leading his family with him. Work out his marriage. Do what is best for him, his wife and his children. Yes, that enemy comes to steal, kill and destroy. He is crafty and many are lead astray by him. Protect this man and his family, for your Name. Thank you for exposing the darkness and bringing to light the truth. Let us walk in the light as you are in the light! Fill us with Your Holy Spirit! Let us put on the armor of God so that we can take our stand against the enemies schemes. We will pray continually in the spirit. Thank you for making a way for us. We will fix our eyes on you Jesus. You are with us. We are never alone. Thank you for this Prayer Wall. Bless this man and his family. Bring health, healing and restoration in your perfect way. I thank you for answering prayer! Thank you for the good hearted people who take the time to read, pray and share- bless them. Thy will be done! You live Jesus! You reign! We are seated with you in the heavenly realms. Thank you for your great love and sacrifice. You paid it all! We are redeemed! We are righteous because you have clothed us in Your righteousness! We will walk in that victory with head held high- sons and daughters of the King of Kings!! Thank you Jesus!! May we share the good news, testify to it as your disciples and may we make disciples. You are coming again soon!! Thank you for our families. Thank you for our sisters and brothers in Christ. Amen! Hang in there and keep on asking for prayer as you pray for your wife, your marriage and your family. You have been a good example to me. Thank you. Be strong and courageous. God goes before you.uriah.k.leePrayers: 42Requests: 8
April 17, 2017 at 6:16 pm
Thank you for that. I’m still feeling down and out. I’m starting to feel like giving up but look at my kids. I’m praying hard that I don’t feel that way. We went to church yesterday and some of her family was there. Which was good news. Our pastor at the end of service ask if anybody needed to rededicate their lives please stand. I stood up and a lil while she stood up. I was hoping she did and she did I was happy inside. I hope that’s a start of something good. Idk only God knows how she feels. She still treats me like I’m the bad guy like I did something wrong. I lay by her kiss her tell her she beautiful. But she ignores me. I pray that prayer that Sheila put on her I have it saved. Thank you all.soundyaaPrayers: 3085Requests: 12
April 17, 2017 at 6:40 pm
Will pray that she can open up to you. Stay strong in God know that he is working in your waiting.jtylerk9Prayers: 1512Requests: 7
April 18, 2017 at 10:29 pm
Continuing with prayers brother. What a huge step standing up publicly praying for a rededication. The Holy Spirit is busy working in this marriage.SheilaTPrayers: 2916Requests: 24
April 19, 2017 at 12:02 am
So amazing to see your grace towards your wife . Even if she says anything negative you continue doing the right thing .
Try this out if you haven’t yet
1.Get a bible story book for kids and read to them every night
2.pray for the Kids before they go to bed
3.Take time on your knees because this is the best place to win wars
4. Pray for your wife and be very kind to her .
As you do this a part of her will be touched by the love of God through you .
We shall keep pressing in for your marriage. God is at work brother so don’t give up
Blessings upon you brothertuulimariaPrayers: 179Requests: 2
April 21, 2017 at 7:03 am
So sorry to hear this! I know a lot of what you are going through. I pray for you and your family! I ask God to give you the same kind of strength and peace he’s given me. I praise him for this grace and love you have for your wife. You are the head of the family, it counts that you seek the Lord. That is the first thing. Don’t give that up no matter what!
As terrible as this is I’m happy that apparently you found out about this earlier than I did about my husband. And that your wife hasn’t completely made up her mind so hopefully she is still considering the cost of all this. And that she still goes to chich. I pray that Holu Spirit may reveal the truth about all this and her self to her.
I would like to recommend two books that have helped me a lot even though my husband hasn’t read them and left. They helped me understand and if your wife would agree to read them she might see things from a different perspective.
The first book is called Not just friends -Rebuilding trust and recovering your sanity after infidelity by Shirley P. Glass. This book covers the whole process from the slippery slope -how and why people end up having affairs- to recovery. It contains lots of facts and I recommend EVERYONE in a relationship or planning to be in one to read this!
The other book is Hedges -Loving your marriage enough to protect it by Jerry B. Jenkins. This author is christian and it shows. Not just friends is a really good one too even though it doesn’t have a biblical tone. Still it shows how destructive and traumatizing infidelity is.
Third thing that has helped me is to listen to some online lectures about the trauma of infidelity and sex addiction. I too highly recommend professional help. If possible I recommend that to be christian and that the councellor/therapist would be familiar with the relational model considering sex addiction. Co-dependency model is really common but it can traumatize you even more. I really pray that God would lead you to the right kind of help and meet all your needs also financial.
Here you can find some of those lectures:
I really pray that you can find help and that it won’t be too late for your marriage! I keep you in my prayers, you, yoyr wife and for your kids. I have three kids my self. And I know having them makes you put up with a whole lot more than you ever thought was possible. Sometimes it’s hard to tell whether it is a blessing or a curse. It’s not easy. Knowing your kids suffer makes it unbearable at times. But they also keep you going and give you a reason to fight.I pray that God gives you wisdom on how to handle things with them. Kids know more than we know they know. They sense it even thogh they have no words for it. And they feel guilty over the graziest things. So it is important to let them know over and over again that they aren’t guilty of anything. None of this is not their fault. They could not have done anything to prevent this and it has nothing to do eith them, they are loved and they are allowed to love each parent and not feel guilty for that no matter what the parents are going through. It is awesome that you are showing love to your wife even when she’scold to you. Your kids benefit from seeing you respect and love her. Their questions show that they sense there’s something under the surface. It’s been shown that seeing dad spending time with mom feels the same to a kid as dad spending time with him. Your relationship is their emotional home. Sometimes knowing these things makes it more painful when it doesn’t work well. But to me it is a huge motivation to show respect, to love and to forgive and let the kids know I love their dad even now. Letting go by giving the strings to the Lord and trusting him is never the less very inportant for your sanity and recovery. You can not make decisions for your wife but you van surrender your will to God and let him make all things for your benefit. The best way to protect your self is to keep your consience clean before the Lord. Give him all the anger as adviced above. Do good when you are treted bad. Bless when you are being cursed. Remember He has suffered all that you are and more. Therefore He is able to help you. He has walked this path. All she has done has hurt Him before it hurt you. He KNOWS your pain and never leaves your side!
I wish I could pack up all compassion I feel for you and all the comfort I have been given and give it to you! If I can do that even a little bit I know why I have suffered.
God bless you and your family, dear brother! I really really wish and pray that you will end up well and your marriage to be restored. I pray that God will heal your wifes heart from whatever the pain is she is seeking to relief.
May He shine His face upon you!@whyfollowjesus365Prayers: 117Requests: 8
April 21, 2017 at 11:08 am
My heart breaks for you brother.
I pray now that my brothers eyes will be opened and that the truth be revealed through the holy spirit.
Father I pray you provide this man with self control and remove pride in all things but you.
I pray that the scriptures and not the world are the guides in this matter. Divorce or reconciliation are both biblical make him strong to seek your word and not chose either through desperation or hurt.
I pray for the wife that she might be restored if this is your will and that she not yo yo back and fore between the two love interests.uriah.k.leePrayers: 42Requests: 8
April 21, 2017 at 3:40 pm
Thank you everybody for the words a advice. I’m continuing to honor our father. Loving her. I told her I forgive her and ask her not to lie to me anymore. If she feels like contacting this guy let me know. Then we will go from there. But I pray that it will never happen again. I will look into the books and the online lectures. I pray I never leave her feeling alone. I pray I give her all she wants and needs for her to feel comfortable. I pray for my kids I pray for our marriage. The devil is a liar he’s not got kill, steal and destroy this marriage. So far it’s going good, Im scared that I’m gonna mess it up again and break her heart. It sucks. But usually I keep it to myself and never talk to anyone. This time I went to my daily audio bible family for prayers so I’m sure it will be different. I talk to my pastor in the past all we do is pray and he ask if I believe it will be better I say yes. Then we end up fighting and now this happens. I will continue to pray and I appreciate the words,scriptures and prayers. Thank you allSheilaTPrayers: 2916Requests: 24
April 21, 2017 at 4:27 pm
God Bless you brother Uriah!
Do not give up. We shall keep uplifting you in prayers.
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