I have written in the past, the trials continue. There is much literature and advice on characteristics for Proverbs 31 women, yet on how to deal with the opposite is scant. The Book of Hosea is one good example. Proverbs numerous times addresses the subject of the quarrelsome wife and at the end of today’s reading in Proverbs 12:4 again it mentions how a husbands bones ache. Thus, it is not judgmental to attest that my wife is difficult to live with, at times wishes me harm, has torn our family asunder, and even affects my job. Last night I had a dream that she was sleeping with another man and I confronted her in the dream. She was apathetic and the man stayed in the bed. This is just a dream, but I have other similar dreams concerning her cruelty and signs of infidelity. To my knowledge she has not been unfaithful, though there are several real problems. She has monthly threatened divorce. Locking me out of the home twice within the past two months, I have been unable to stay in our home for over a month within the past three months. Being in the Navy and stationed overseas, she plead with to my command and the JAG that she desired to leave me. When the Navy finally authorized it she had second thoughts, but they are now ordering her and our five-year-old daughter to leave the country. She is talking about moving to Orlando merely due to the fact that Disney World is there. She may uproot all of our household goods, will be taking our daughter away from me, and I am uncertain on what she may do next. I will have to move once she leaves as my housing allowance will decrease as well. We do not talk much anymore. I have realized there is not much point. Her reality is just different and over time it has seemed to worsen. She is sick and I do not mean that in a harsh way. She is telling everyone here that we are all leaving and not disclosing the truth. She went to a clinical psychologist with me about three weeks ago prior to learning that the Navy is ordering her to leave and the doctor mentioned that she may need medication. Sadly the sessions cannot continue as she has to leave. She sold our new Apple computer in the home. She can just become out of control. She opened a credit card in her name and spent $5,000 within two months. I think she may have a Cluster B personality disorder. She honestly thinks she is never at fault and never apologizes. There is no repentance, concern for me, or really love. The hard question I wrestle with is the godly response to the circumstances. I pray. What I am uncertain on is if I should do anything else. My parents and others are urging me to hire an attorney and fight for the safety and custody of our daughter by filing a legal separation. Financially she may continue to cause problems as well by overspending and getting into debt, even if it is just in her name. We no longer have any joint accounts. The alternative is to just wait and see. Maybe she will get help, but it does not seem likely. I am uncertain how God wants me to respond. There needs to be terms to our separation and it needs to be enforceable so that she is held accountable, but despite all the issues my wife continues to cause, I do not want to divorce her. A legal separation seems somewhat drastic, but if she just continues to do whatever she wants and have our daughter, I want to think of the well-being of our daughter too. It is a difficult situation. I do not want to be judged by God for filing for a legal separation if that is wrong. The goal is for her to realize she needs to see a psychiatrist or psychologist weekly, for me to still have rights to see our daughter, and for my wife to not ruin me financially. I appreciate your prayers and am open to any suggestions on what is the best course of action. Thank you and may God continue to bless this ministry.