Daughter Requesting to go to a group home
jroundy99Prayers: 83Requests: 16
September 5, 2019 at 8:27 am
DAB Family, this is Jonathan from North Carolina. We have 6 kids 4 adopted and 2 bio. I mention this because some of the issues we are dealing with relate to adoption. We have had a very long road with our daughter who is now 15 years old. We are currently on the tail end of an intensive in-home services, not our first, with DSS in our area. We are trying to figure things out. We believe she has RAD, however this is undiagnosed at this point….
We recently moved all 4 of our kids to a Christian school to help with some of the influences they were dealing with and seemed unable to stand up against. They are a few weeks into the year and my daughter got into some pretty serious trouble. After getting into trouble she started talking about how she is allowed to drop out of school when she is 16 years old etc. Then she moved on to saying she would like to move to a group home. She has talked to her intensive in-home person, well one of them about this and now there is a meeting on Friday regarding this. We need wisdom from the Lord, would you ask God or even beg Him with us? I know He is willing to give us wisdom, please pray for us to be good recipients and to trust the wisdom He gives as we navigate this process. We don’t know if we should refuse to sign paperwork, if we should move forward but maintain some standards of what we are looking for in a group home….It’s a very complex situation. Please pray for Elena our daughter and for our whole family. Thanks family!
Jonathan from North CarolinagsimoninPrayers: 3390Requests: 25
September 5, 2019 at 11:26 am
Brother Jonathan, it is an honor to join in prayer with you for your beloved daughter, Elena, and these issues. Lord, we ask that You give Jonathan and his wife wisdom to know how to proceed with these several potentially life-changing decisions. You tell us that if we lack wisdom, all we have to do is ask You for some. So all we DABers come and ask on behalf of this family. Give them wisdom and peace. We pray for Your peace to settle on Elena and help her make good choices for herself. ~gailpattysyellowbusPrayers: 1496Requests: 10
September 5, 2019 at 3:25 pm
Joining with these prayers for Elena. Oh Lord, we Love You and Thank You for this family that has stretched its borders. Bless them mightily, O Lord. Father, today they ask for wisdom because they have problems that need to be resolved and they are looking to You. Heal Elena O Lord, Come into her heart and give her a heart of repentance. Make her a new person that seeks to live for You, O Lord. Open her eyes to the love that surrounds her, that You have provided for her; she has a family who loves her. O Lord, help her to see. I lift up Jonathan to You Lord – he asks for wisdom – indeed give him Your wisdom liberally, Lord. May he sense Your Love and Peace as it washes over him as Your plan unfolds. May he surrender to Your will no matter how difficult it is. Lord, give him a confidence that You have everything under control and You Love him. We worship You! Praise Your Name!felixculpa723Prayers: 2063Requests: 7
September 6, 2019 at 12:21 am
Heavenly Father, I stand in agreement with these prayers on behalf of this family. We are all your children, Father, and the decision on whether this child goes to a group home rests with you. I stand in support of these parents. I also pray for an outpouring of your love and for the protection of this child whose thinking and desires may be immature. I stand in support of the wisdom you impart to these parents and advisors. Father, I pray that you find a way to reveal yourself to this daughter as her Lord and Savior, and that this grasp for independence be transformed into a growth in maturity, and the beginning of a relationship with you. Father, I ask that you nurture this child, and show her the next steps of her path with you. Bless these parents for the investment of love they have made in the lives of each of their children. Father, encourage these parents, as only you can. Anoint them anew with the healing oil that will guide them each day as they walk this difficult path of parenthood. Father, you are the most perfect and the most high God!e_richar2003Prayers: 51Requests: 1
September 6, 2019 at 10:59 am
Lord God I too join in agreement with the prayers that have gone forth. We thank you that you are in control of every situation in our lives. You already know the whole story and you want us to trust the process. Give this family an assurance to continue to walk in your ways. To know that if they train their children in the way that they should go, that when they are old they will not depart from it. Sometimes, we see struggles as our fault. Help them to trust the road that you have them on. Remind them that you love them and that you are at work in them and in their family. Be glorified and grant them peace. Thank you father that they have opened their home to be a blessing to those who don’t have. Continue to give them strength as they walk in your ways. In Jesus Name, Amen.gsimoninPrayers: 3390Requests: 25
September 6, 2019 at 12:27 pm
Psalms 50:14-15 Make thankfulness your sacrifice to God, and keep the vows you made to the Most High. Then call on me when you are in trouble and I will rescue you, and you will give me glory.
Continuing to pray for your family. Lord, work Your will in their lives today. ~gailjroundy99Prayers: 83Requests: 16
September 6, 2019 at 10:08 pm
Hey DAB Family, thank you for these prayers and please continue praying. Today was the beginning of this process.
Praising the Lord as we were able to have a good discussion with the team of therapists and Elena and even some of our other children joined in the conversation. It went so well, Elena thanked us basically for how it went. We were able to all share our feelings about the idea and I was able to express to Elena that we love her very much and we want the best for her. Also that while I don’t want her to go to a group home, if that is truly what is best for her and will give her the helps she needs then I can support the idea. My wife was able to talk about how we want to be very careful what group home we would select to insure that our daughter is safe and is getting the help she needs.
I’m not sure of it, but there is a home called CALO in Missouri that my wife and I both believe would have the help that she needs in order to gain healing. Of course God is the provider of healing and can do that wherever. Please continue to pray with us as we think through continuing on this path of group home or if we keep doing what we’ve been doing.
In a lot of ways continuing on the path we have been on doesn’t seem to make a ton of sense since it hasn’t really been working evidenced by the fact that we are in our second or 3rd Intensive in-home with very little if any change….at least that is how it feels. Thanks again family.
Jonathan from North CarolinagsimoninPrayers: 3390Requests: 25
September 7, 2019 at 10:31 am
O Lord, our Lord, how majestic is Your name in all the earth! We worship and adore You! Thank You, Father, for this good report. There is nothing better than covering an emotional situation with oodles of prayer. We are so very grateful for the result of this meeting.
Please continue to give wisdom to Jonathan and his wife as they walk this path with their beloved daughter, Elena. Help them find a very good place for Elena and that there she will receive training, teaching and guidance which will benefit her entire life. Show them what is their next right step. ~gailjroundy99Prayers: 83Requests: 16
September 9, 2019 at 7:50 am
Soo….this weekend we got a call from the director of the school she just started at this year. The original decision by the administration team was that she is not a good fit for the new school, meaning she is expelled I guess, I’m not sure what the exact term is. It relates to some behaviors she is exhibiting and a lack of willingness to comply with the rules and guidelines the school has set forth. Anyhow after we talked to our daughter we called the school back and asked if she could meet with them and if they could consider giving her another chance or putting her on probation or something. THAT MEETING is at 12:30 EST today. Please bathe this in prayer along with us…I’m realizing I don’t know how much I have prayed about this. Anyhow, we as parents need prayer and wisdom and direction. We’ve never had a child kicked out or whatever from a school and none of the schools near us seem to be a good or healthy place for her. Having a hard time trusting right now as we worked and planned for something like 7 or 8 months to get our kids into this school and now it looks like we may need a new solution for this daughter. Please pray for the meeting and situation as well as for my wife and I to trust Abba that He alone has the best plan and we need only trust in Him.dgonzalestollyPrayers: 1Requests: 2
September 9, 2019 at 8:01 am
Lord we pray for the family. I thank you for their heart. We ask in your powerful name to intervene in this situation. We trust you are the God who hears us. You love us and know the end from the beginning. We love you Lord and trust you. AmengsimoninPrayers: 3390Requests: 25
September 9, 2019 at 9:07 am
Standing in agreement with you, Jonathan, and lifting you up in prayer for this school meeting today. Lord, have Your way in this meeting today. Be with the people that gather and be a strong presence in the room. We are praying for what is BEST for Elena. Please give wisdom especially to her parents about what is to be done about her school situation. This is hard but we know that You are at work. Help Jonathan and his wife trust in You and that what’s being done is in order to guide them and Elena to the next place where she will be better helped. Thank You for hearing our prayers and caring so very deeply about these details. Today, Lord, be glorified! ~gailjroundy99Prayers: 83Requests: 16
September 11, 2019 at 12:38 pm
Dear DAB Family,
Elena attempted suicide on Monday 9/10 in the evening after finding out that she could not continue her enrollment at the school she was attending. I think the meeting went well but there were three main issues leading to the result. She wasn’t able to be honest about the things she had done, Elena didn’t believe it was the best place for her to be, and lastly they felt like the behavior restrictions that they would need to put in place would just set her up to fail.
4 of our 6 kids are adopted
During that meeting she expressed how sad she felt when her brother received a call from his biological mother on his birthday and she wondered what she had done wrong to not get a phone call from her mother.
Also during the meeting she waffled between thinking the school would be good and not thinking it would be good for her.
The Lord has been with us through this time and Elena has come through OK. She is at a hospital 4 hours away right now as I am writing. She was transported there last night. I asked a friend from church to pray that she would be leveled properly so she can receive the care that she needs and will help her overcome the hurdles she is facing in life. Not long after that I found out that they had leveled her at a PRTF level. This is the level of Calo, a home we think would be perfect for her and what she is dealing with. While this is so very hard, we can see the Lord’s hands all over this. Please pray as the Lord leads, but here are some idea:
1. Proper placement in a situation where she can get help. We are thinking Calo, but we know HE knows all the options available and which one is best.
2. Wisdom for us as we support her through the days ahead
3. For our other children that we will give them the attention they need during this time
4. For my wife who is being attacked by the enemy and dealing with a lot of guilt and shame type stuff.
5. For our marriage, we are doing oK, but I know the enemy is gonna want to and has already tried to get in there and make issues. HE HAS NO PLACE!!!
6. We are thinking of trying to reach Biblical Restoration Ministries that deals with demonic issues and so wisdom and guidance for that.
7. That we won’t do anything that would reduce the effectiveness of the treatment for Elena
8. Wisdom for the Dr. Diagonses. What she is dealing with is not officially diagnosed and is often mis diagnosed as other things. Pray for God’s hand on the diagnose so she can get the help she needs. Thanks family!! I love you all so much!
It looks like they are working to see if they can get things in place for her to move from the hospital to the PRTF where she will spend some time, but it’s all in the air.felixculpa723Prayers: 2063Requests: 7
September 12, 2019 at 11:45 am
Heavenly Father, our prayer family gathers around your holy prayer altar to support and intercede for this family on behalf of all the needs Jonathan has stated, as well as for the unspoken prayer requests that may be in the hearts of others in this family. Our hearts are heavy that this child attempted suicide, but we rejoice that you spared Elena’s life. We thank you for the family that has sheltered and loved Elena. The many tentacles of this situation may be overwhelming to us, but we know that you love Elena more than we can, and you have prepared a path that will lead to her healing. I pray that you will provide wise counsel to this family about the next step forward. Grant physicians and mental health professionals insights into the best treatment and educational path for Elena. We ask that your wisdom will cover all aspects of this current crisis so that Elena can get the help you intend for her. Restore this child’s mental capacity so that she can understand her role in her own healing. Give her the grace to ask for help and to gradually accept responsibility for her part in this journey. Walk beside Elena, and hold her up when she starts to falter. Reveal yourself to her in the way that will allow her to understand you as her Lord and Savior. Be near to every member of this family, and help each one to heal from the effects of this family crisis, and to grow as the result of these challenges. In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, I cast out Satan from this home and from any claims he might have on Elena’s life. At Jesus’ name alone, the evil demons must leave. They flourish in darkness, but they cannot survive in the pure light of the Son. Your light, Lord, is like a sword that separates truth from lies, wisdom from foolishness. We need your light in order to live. You are the air we breathe. Father, we are so grateful just to be able to bring these petitions to your holy altar, to allow us to weep when that is all our fleshly exhaustion will allow us to do. We praise you that you never leave us or forsake us, and that we are refreshed just to be in your presence.felixculpa723Prayers: 2063Requests: 7
September 14, 2019 at 5:56 pm
Heavenly Father, I return to your throne this evening to intercede for this entire family. I pray that Elena continues to recover from her suicide attempt. Preserve her life, Lord, and lead her to the next home or institution that you have ordained. Cover this family with your grace and mercy, and grant them a reprieve from the intensity of the past weeks.jroundy99Prayers: 83Requests: 16
September 15, 2019 at 8:26 pm
Thank you all so much for your prayers. We feel them and are thankful for them. Please pray especially for my wife as she is suffering under feelings of guilt.
Friday night we called at phone time and asked Elena if she would like a visit. She is getting discharged tomorrow, Monday, which was a bit of a surprise to us when we found out late last week. Anyhow she said well that is a long way, 4 hours 1 way, for you guys to drive etc. I was kind of sad to have that news as I really wanted to visit with her. We left it that we would call again in the morning and find out if she had changed her mind. We called early Saturday and the nurse said that she woke up to the question and smiled and said yes please to the visit.
We were nervous she might change her mind, however God gave us a sweet sweet sweet sweet time with her. Our conversation was so sweet I cannot remember another conversation like the ones we had with her. Also, it gave my wife and I 8 hours of visiting and being together just the two of us thanks to help from our family and church family to take care of our other 5 kids.
When we were there Elena said that as soon as she hung up the phone she thought about calling us back and letting us know she wanted the visit, but decided to wait until the AM as we had plans to call anyhow.
She will be coming back to our home, please pray as there are a lot of preparations that we had to make and we need to be vigilant without making her feel weird. Please pray for wisdom as we try to figure out schooling, if and when she goes to a PRTF etc.
Also please pray for wisdom for us as parents, we discovered last night that our 17 year old is starting vaping or has started vaping. Anyhow, we had some hard conversations last night as he was not honest with us etc. We love him to death, however I don’t think he believes that, even a little bit. He was sneaky and deleting individual messages from his text threads etc.
Thanks family, we appreciate your support.
Oh this morning in church we were able to share with our Sunday School class what was going on with our daughter and got some wonderful prayer and encouragement from our local church family.
Jonathan from North CarolinagsimoninPrayers: 3390Requests: 25
September 16, 2019 at 12:10 am
Amen to Brother Felix’s prayers! I agree with them. Father, we continue to ask that You be very present with this precious family right now with all the challenges before them and how it affects every family member. Bless mom and help her release any and all guilt feelings. I doubt they are warranted by any true guilt, it sounds like you all have been wonderful parents. Give wisdom in the many details of caring for Elena, and their other children. Help them find a good placement for Elena for schooling and whatever else would be most beneficial. Thank You, Lord, for the good visit they had and the positive attitude. Blessings, gail
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