Help my wife and I not divorce
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March 16, 2017 at 9:36 pm
I’ll go by midwest Rob. I’m sorry I have to post an all-too-common request. My wife has come to believe our marriage is hopeless, and she has let me know she wants a divorce. We have 2 young daughters.
This after several years of very significant disappointments for her – on the level of “This was my God-given purpose in life, and it completely failed” kind of disappointment. And I’m not taking too much on myself to say that, while I didn’t see the significance at the time, I played a significant role in those disappointments taking place…
– Thinking I was protecting myself from her craziness, only to see later just how selfish I was acting, undercutting her ability to perform a new job, so that she felt her only course was to resign.
– Lying by keeping some significant abuse in my past from her, before and after we were married.
– Lying by presenting my career as more stable than it was before we were married.
– Angry words on my part, and assuming bad intentions on her part.
It’s clear to me that I have been selfish, angry, and hard to make a life with. I have given these things to Christ and repent daily, and I am starting counseling to understand my issues and to change.
She also knows she has issues, but is not open to counseling. (We also currently live several hours apart, which makes counseling very difficult). She is simply interested in knowing when and how we will divorce.
Please ask God to open our eyes to him, to help me be a man she can trust and love, to speak clearly to both of us, to send unforeseen mentors to tell us truth, to stop the breakup of our family, to have hope and to forgive and reconcile with each other. That this will be for God’s glory, and so our children will see what God can do in broken lives. Please pray for this. Thank you!
March 16, 2017 at 9:52 pmAmen
Praying Rob, for you, your wife and your girls.
March 17, 2017 at 5:29 amRob, I pray that you continue down this road of recovery for yourself. I pray that you feel the forgiveness God has already given you. I pray that your wife’s eyes and heart be open to receiving the love you have for her. I pray that she also feels the forgiveness of the Lord and chooses to forgive. I pray that what is best for all involved (husband, wife, children) occurs. May God be with you all the days of you life. Amen.
March 17, 2017 at 7:01 amPraying for you Rob as you request in your last paragraph have pasted it into my prayer diary. God be with you, may God help change your hearts. In Jesus name.
March 17, 2017 at 1:31 pmIn my prayers just now this request from you stood out: ‘to have hope and to forgive and reconcile with each other. ‘ I will pray for this more now. God be with you both at this hard time, but know that there can be light within this situation. Amen. In Jesus name.
March 17, 2017 at 3:22 pmDear Father, As You can see Rob is keeping short accounts with You and doing all that he can do to help the situation. Please bless his efforts and also answer his prayers. Give this couple and their children the grace to forgive and the strength to do Your will. In Jesus’ name, amen.
March 17, 2017 at 3:38 pmDear Rob
I am praying for your marriage and for peace between you and your wife . I will be back with more as I seek God .don’t give into the lieing divorce spirits ! I bind the spirit of divorce in Jesus name !
March 17, 2017 at 7:47 pmDear Rob
A broken spirit and a contrite heart God will not despise . You have acknowledged before God your past mistakes and let your past not dictate your future . Let the enemy not lie to you and make you think that you cannot get through your past dids.Write down your weaknesses and go to the best counselor-the Holy Spirit. He will advise you cost free and you will overcome .
When praying ask God to make you to be the man that will bring him glory . Ask him to Remove / destroy anything in you that is NOT from him and anything in you that is not pleasing to him . Now at this point you are simply telling him to have total control over your life .
Purpose to be the best husband you can be and the truth is that no one can do this apart from God’s help ; so ask the Holy Spirit to help you always.
Before conversing with your wife tell the Holy Spirit to control your speech ; and as you speak your speech will touch the heart of your wife .Do not attempt to remind your wife of her faults , you ask the Lord to completely transform you and as he does your wife will start getting transformed.May God heal your marriage, speak to your wife with love ❤️. Be the man that she fell in love with .God is in the business of restoring marriages and count yours as one of them . Speak life over your marriage and don’t dare doubt no matter how bad it may seem.
Now as a child of God you have authority – be sure to have no unforgiveness/ or unrepentant heart before you attempt this ;
Say this aloud “you Spirit of Divorce I bind you in the name of Jesus ! You will no longer have a say on my marriage ! I paralyze all your efforts to derail this marriage ! I render you ineffective in Jesus name !
Start thanking God for the change that he will bring in your marriage. Purpose to walk that narrow path that leads to eternal life .
Flee evil and the devil will flee from you .God bless you !
March 17, 2017 at 8:14 pmAmen and Amen Sister Shelia.
March 17, 2017 at 10:46 pmDear Rob
You are not alone. I am in the exact same situation as you. My marriage has fallen apart and we are going through a very painfull divorce with 3 children. It is the most difficult situation I have ever faced.
But, you have done the right thing by putting your situation up on the prayer wall. Many people pray and things will happen. I also put my situation on the prayer wall and things started to happen.
No, my marriage has not been restored, but I have experienced so many blessings in this dark situation that I have lost count! The Lord will take care of you in this situation. Let him control the situation and pray. Take on the full armor of the God, because this will protect you from falling.
In the end it is up to God how to restore you and your wife. Trust him!I´ll pray for you, brother
March 17, 2017 at 11:00 pmAmen to that Brother Nissenadam. Praying for you both to feel blessed or be able to see a situation differently as a blessing this weekend. In Jesus name. Your brother in Christ Andy.
March 18, 2017 at 12:02 amGod bless you Brother Nissenadam. No matter what valley you are in right now, Know that God will UPHOLD you with his right hand. Thank you so much for reminding Brother Rob on the Full armor ( Ephe 6:10-20) and the encouragement you have offered.
May God’s angels encamp around you and yes call yourself blessed no matter what you face because Christ Jesus is for you! Keep your eyes focused on Christ. This too shall pass ( all the tribulations) !
March 18, 2017 at 4:08 pmFriends, I am so moved by your prayers. I do not know what will happen, and in most ways I am still feeling very desperate and fearful (especially when my wife wants to talk about moving the process along).
I have been reading Isaiah 40:1-5, which has encouraged me in 2 ways:
1. God has heard me, and my sin is atoned for, completely forgiven (vs. 2)
2. In this very scary wilderness I am to prepare the way for the Lord (vs. 3)
– for myself, by repenting, seeking God, making restitution, and obeying his leading;
– for my wife by praying for God to reveal himself in a powerful way to her.If I “make straight the way of the Lord” (i.e. draw near to him, don’t resist him), he will “raise the valleys, lower the mountains, make the rough ground level” (i.e. draw near to me, take me up on my request). I don’t know all this will include, but I do know God has access to both our hearts and minds and can move us to what he wants. And what he wants is repentance and restoration. He has already convicted me of further things in the last day that I have repented of.
As I was reading the above passage earlier this morning, “preparing the way” for God in my heart, and asking him to work a miracle in both my wife and I, the CD player across the room began playing the song “The King Is Coming… The King Is Coming… The King Is Coming…” I don’t know all that will happen, or if my wife will trust me again and work toward reconciliation, but I know that whatever happens I need the King to come, and I know that he is.
Thank you for your prayers. Your words have helped me direct my prayers in a time that I am too distressed to figure out what to pray. I know the Holy Spirit prays on my behalf, but it is important that I know how to pray as well.
If you would add one thing to your list, please pray that God would give me ideas on how to ‘extravagantly support’ my wife. I don’t know why those words are in my mind, but it is something I think I need to do at this point (and should have for a long time).
Nissenadam, I pray for restoration and the close presence of Christ for you and all your family in a way that all of you can feel.
March 18, 2017 at 7:19 pmEphesians 2:25 for you today. That is the verse that came to mind instantly. Study how Jesus gave himself up for us, understand what he did for us and the sacrifice he made. I think too often people remember the 2:22-23 of Ephesians but I believe 25 is how a husband should live for his wife. For this reason may God make you more Christ like in this chapter of your life walking with him. In Jesus name I will be praying for you. God bless you both
March 19, 2017 at 6:39 pmPraying Rob
March 19, 2017 at 9:02 pmPraying for your family! Rob, wife and children.
What I’ve learned from my experience, is to be still and wait on God!
Before decisions are made, pray and ask the Holy Spirit for help and direction first.Are you able to pray together? Thinking back, we were both so hurt and our minds were so clouded. This simple but powerful action of prayer together can help restore and begin breakdown walls.
God bless you and yours.
March 21, 2017 at 6:37 pmI am praying for this marriage. I am praying that your wife finds hope in Jesus. That she looks to Jesus to fulfill her needs. That this marriage become a blessing to the two of you, that God brings about forgiveness, wisdom for the both of you. That you continue to seek God and ask him to renew your mind and help change the negative things about you.
March 21, 2017 at 9:37 pmPraying for Gods will be done.
March 25, 2017 at 3:11 amPraying!
March 25, 2017 at 5:10 amRob,
Praying that God will give you the right words to say, or not say, to your wife when you both speak.Father, I praise you for the healing that you are bringing to Rob, and that you are walking with him during this difficult journey. however, God, we know that You are the only One who can be on this road with Rob in the way you know he needs each moment of the day. Father, soften his wife’s heart, and hold her in Your arms as she is recognizing that Rob is making changes. Knit her heart to Your heart, as well as knit Rob’s heart to Your heart, dear Jesus, and then knit their heart together. Give them tenderness, and a listening ear, Father. Help them to forgive, and uplift, affirm, apologize, love as never before, and that Your Spirit will fill them to overflowing God, to bring this family together, Jesus, once again, I pray, in Jesus’ name, amen. Isaiah 41:10 comes to mind.
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