Hi, I looked at the prayer wall to originally post a prayer until your title caught my eye. It was like reading my own life as i read through and felt led to pray for you. I was wondering if your husband was a Christian too. If not, i would start there, in praying during this time he experiences God’s touch on his life, where ever your husband is, reach out your hand in prayer towards his direction, even if in another house and pray with passion and persistence daily. If he is then pray for God to touch and speak to him, convict him and restore his love in Him, again daily. You maybe separated but you are still his wife and can show your commitment to your marriage through prayer rather than any other way at the moment. Have you heard of the book ‘The power of the praying wife’ ? Its a wonderful support and book, definitely recommend. Its not an answer but the lady who wrote it, Stormie Omartian, has written it so well that the prayers are easy but are read with such strength, which is a great help when you don’t know what to pray. Id also highly recommend looking up Marriagetoday, run by jimmy and Karen evans. They were a great encouragement to listen to and read online. While separated try and keep boundaries in place that will help you and the children plus your husband, time with his children is important but maybe not with you right now, and he needs to respect that, but if he doesn’t you respect yourself and put that boundary in place. Think about marriage counselling, would recommend someone from your church or independent from you both but a Christian couple. Time for yourself is so important with God during this time to find who you are again as i am wondering if you feel you have lost you. You can see how wonderful a mother you are in reading your story and throwing yourself into being a mum helps keep you going, from experience I understand, but its also time to remember you are also a woman, a daughter of God, and God wants to draw you closer to him during this time not just to learn to be a mum but the woman He created you to be. Being a mum is only part of who He made you to be, His daughter is another, and by finding you again, you become a stronger mum too. Look at christian counselling, online or over the phone during this time for yourself too. Ask those close to you to tell you a strength or something they admire or see in you, make a list of hobbies you used to love, what makes you laugh, what do YOU enjoy doing, such as art and crafts, sports, baking, socialising, writing. Make a note of them and start doing a few to help build yourself back up. I pray for a break through in all this for you, God to surround your family and such amazing peace. ask yourself, do you trust God? Its so hard to trust anyone when your heart has been crushed and broken, even God! but ask yourself do you truly trust God, if not, which is likely when we’ve been hurt, ask Him to help you trust Him and He will guide and lead you at each stage when He knows you are ready too, place all, first and foremost into His hands, lay it at the foot of the cross leave it with him, don’t try to do it alone anymore and trust Him. He knows whats best for you your husband and the children more than you do. I pray His presence around you, His strength when you are weak, His guidance when you are lost and His healing hand upon you to heal your heart through such a time as this. God wants us to succeed 100% at marriage but He also knows we are human and He also doesn’t want His children in any kind of abusive, manipulative relationship, but He can restore, whether together or on your own. I pray for healing for your husband from past hurts and baggage, for Godly men to come along side him to support him though his healing and for woman of God and a friendship circle to surround you and your children during this time. Your cry to pray for your marriage tells me you still have a hope and want the marriage but fear too. Fear is not from God, but God is hope, so put your hope in Him, not your husband, and pray with perseverance without ceasing telling Him exactly what and how you feel, He already knows but He wants a stronger relationship with you, for you to share your deepest thoughts and hurts and worries and dreams with Him. He has put dreams and hopes in our heart, so lift them up to Him. He knows what you have been through/ going through and will never leave you no matter what. He loves you so much, God forsook Jesus on the cross so He would never ever forsake us. Try the book i suggested and give yourself time, ask each day what he wants you to pray for and listen, through scripture or a single verse, through someone else or His gentle voice, He will talk to you, put on praise music to lift your spirit. 6 months, or a year separated, although so heartbreaking and just not knowing, will eventually feel time well spent to set aside to find yourself in Him, start to heal and become a strong woman/ wife/ mum of God, in readiness to what He has in store for your future.

Dear Summer Sunset,
I love your name too! You know what , God is ABLE to change what seems unchangeable. Draw so close to God and keep praying for the TRUE Salvation and DELIVERANCE of your husband.

Remember what the Lord desires of a husband. – That a husband love his wife like Christ loves the church.

Keep praying . The enemy will have to LOSE this battle in Jesus name!

Standing in agreement with these prayers for our sister, Summer Sunset, her children, her husband, and her marriage. Thank you for asking for wisdom! Lord, You tell us that if we lack wisdom – don’t we all? – we can come to You and ask for it and You will give it to us. So we stand here today thanking You for giving our sister the wisdom she needs in this very difficult, emotional situation. Lord, help her clearly see, without emotion, that many of the things she says of her husband indicate that he has some very large problems which he is taking out on her. This is not what You planned for marriage.

Sister, I encourage you to get some professional Christian counseling and require more of him before even considering ending the separation. His behaviors sound out of control. I think of him getting weekly help for a minimum of 6 months before considering what’s next for you all. In the meantime, you might need a Restraining Order from him. Pray about all this and obey the Lord’s leading. May the Lord, guide and protect you as you seek to follow Him, protecting yourself and your children. Blessings, gail